Rooney suggests that romantic love is often just a practice run for the harder work of friendship. Frances lies to Nick constantly, but she hides her true self from Bobbi, which is arguably a bigger betrayal. You cannot talk about this book without talking about the lack of quotation marks.
But the genius of the novel is that Frances is also watching us watching her. The novel is told in the first person, past tense. Frances is recounting a period of her life where she lost control, yet she does so with a clinical detachment that feels like a defense mechanism. Conversations with Friends
Published in 2017, before Normal People broke the internet and made chain-link necklaces a symbol of existential angst, Conversations with Friends laid the blueprint for what would become the "Rooneyverse": razor-sharp dialogue, emotionally constipated intellectuals, and the quiet agony of trying to be a good person while desperately wanting things you shouldn’t. Rooney suggests that romantic love is often just
This stylistic choice mimics the experience of anxiety. The line between what is real (spoken) and what is internal (thought) blurs. Frances lives so much in her head that she sometimes forgets to actually live in the room. Conversations with Friends is not a comfortable read. Frances is prickly, self-destructive, and often unfair to the people who love her. Nick is frustratingly passive. The ending is ambiguous. But the genius of the novel is that