I have interpreted this as a request for a mature, discreet, and psychologically nuanced article about intimacy later in life, specifically addressing the anxiety of privacy in communal living situations (like tight-knit Indonesian neighborhoods). Whispers Behind Closed Doors: Navigating Intimacy, Anxiety, and the 'Binor' Dynamic in a Crowded Neighborhood
There is a specific kind of tension that exists only in densely populated neighborhoods. The walls are thin. The windows are old. And Mrs. RT (the neighborhood association head) seems to have superhuman hearing.
If you are having sex with a mature woman and the only thing you are thinking about is the sound traveling through the kerpus (wooden ceiling), you aren't really present. Fix the environment, use white noise, lower your voices to a sensual hum, and reclaim your bedroom.
The goal isn't complete silence. The goal is peace of mind .